Sunday, August 24, 2008

What a Difference!!

I noticed one of the Jamaica pix was a very similar pose as one of the Ethiopia pix...look how healthy and plumpy our little guy looks!!

Our Seasoned Traveller

Here's Marley on our way to Jamaica...letting me enjoy a pre-flight margarita and snoozing with Dad!! Gotta love the red-eye flights!!

Jamaican Fun

Here are some pix of us having fun in the hotel room...naked style!!

Go Bolts!!!

He watched his first Chargers game last week and of course was wearing his Chargers jersey!! He looked awesome and helped San Diego to victory!!

He's Walking!!!!

The end of yet another era and a new milestone reached! He started this week, the same week he started daycare...needless to say, it was an emotional week for Mom!!

Sandman 1 - Marley 0

Fight as he might, he was just no match for the sleepies!!

Friday, August 15, 2008

My Parental Pledge

I heard some very disturbing news this morning.

The family of a boy who was shot to death at school is suing the school district because they (the school) allowed the boy to wear make up and feminie clothing to school. You can read the whole article if you think that sounds too ridiculous to be true!

My search of "Family sues school district for son's death" yielded 5,070,000 results...where are the parents? Where is the accountability? As a high school teacher and, most importantly, Mom I am absolutely blown away by the consequence free environment in which so many Americans live. I think the school district should counter-sue the parents for allowing their child to leave the house wearing make-up and feminie clothing! Or am I being presumptious in thinking that this poor child even had parents at home when he would leave for, or come home from, school each day.

But wait...I was a latch key kid...I came home to an empty house (until our house was broken into and then my parents got me a sitter). And still my parents knew everything that was going on in my life.

My parents gave me consequences...really, really bad consequences, like grounding me from the curling iron in 1987 ( more baseball bangs) when I talked back to my mom, or grounding me from my car the summer before my senior year in high school because I got a D in Geometry...remember now, I grew up in Tucson, was gothic (ie: wore only black) and had to walk to summer school to make up that grade! And the best was getting grounded when I was caught in the act of lying...I told my parents I was going to a basketball game, when in fact I went to Mo Udall park and made out with Lenny Robles for like 3 hours...oh..high school...My parents had a hunch I was fibbing, so my dad drove to the game to see if I was there and when I wasn't, he stayed in the parking lot until we pulled up...I am pretty sure I was grounded for the remainder of my freshman year!!
So my pledge is this:

I PROMISE to, first and foremost, BE THERE for Marley; physically present as often as I can without smothering him to death or taking away his independence! But more importantly, when I can't be there physically, I will do all I can to be there emotionally, to provide a place for him that is safe to talk about my parents did! I told them EVERYTHING...when I was thinking about doing drugs in college, when I lost my virginity, when I was dealing with the scars left from my biological mother's leaving...they were there! And they taught me that it's OK to be hurt and angry or sad, but it's NOT ok to mess up my life because of it...and until I was old enough to suffer consequences of my own...they were there making sure I suffered through theirs.
And my parents are still there for me and Mike, and I know for Marley too, which really rocks!!

Secondly, I PROMISE to give Marley consequences when he makes bad choices. I hated being grounded, and I was grounded a lot as a child, and teen, but rarely did I make the same mistake twice!

And last, I PROMISE to look to these people first when Marley does mess up! Not to the school, not to his friends, but to us...what can we do to ensure Marley makes good choices? That is what we will ask...we will not blame others, we will take responsibility to raise our beautiful baby boy to be a strong, smart, accountable, young Ethiopian-American man!!

Thank you Mom and Dad for being such great role models!! I love you both to death!!


I will be making a montage soon, but I just wanted to give you all a sneak peek of our fabulous trip!!

Bring Your Marley to Work Day

So sad that's it's over...every Thursday morning during summer school, Mike would take Marley to work with him so I could sleep in and catch up on some alone time! This is what usually went on while I snoozed!!

Crashed Out COOL!!!

While Mom and Dad enjoyed a delicious repass at Pasadena's Yard House (Mike's favorite eating and drinking establishment), Marley was chillin and snoozin'!

The Latest in Headware

Introducing the Big Bird Cracker hat...or Headband really!!

Thursday, August 14, 2008

A Visit From Friends

Before we went to Jamaica we had some friends from Portland visit us! Karin and Steve were gracious enough to open their home to us last Thanksgiving and they didn't even know us! It was a Turkey Day blind date that went great! Within minutes we felt like we had known them, and their friends, forever...but alas the tragic flaw...they live in Portland! They are sitting in the pole position in the infamous "List" and have been there forever...or since the courts closed anyway!! We know their wait will be worth it...just like ours!!

Oh yeah, Marley was also teaching them how to do the laundry!!